Dating Again?
Tips to Introducing a New Person to Your Kids
Give yourself time to heal before establishing a new relationship.
Jumping into a new relationship is sometimes tempting. However,
rushing into another relationship is usually a way to avoid the
pain of the break-up. Give yourself time to heal and rebuild your
life again.
1) Establish good routines and structures in your family.
Children thrive on consistency. Having predicable structures set
up in the family will ease feelings of insecurity when a new
person is introduced.
2) Keep dating time and parenting time separate (for
non-custodial parents especially).
Children need to know that their time is important. Children will
often resent the new person if they feel their special time is
being intruded on.
3) Avoid sleep-overs with the new person when the children are
present.
Viewing you as a sexual being is disturbing for most children. Do
not expose your child to this side of your life.
4) Introduce the new person only when you think the
relationship has long-term potential.
New relationships might not work out so wait awhile before you
introduce the new person to your children. Introducing many people
in the children’s life creates confusion and insecurity.
5) Don't have the children refer to the new person as a
relative.
Telling the child to call the new person Mom; Dad; Uncle, etc., is
too confusing particularly if the relationship doesn't work out.
Have the children use the first name of the new person.
6) Go slowly.
For instance, introduce the children to a new person first before
including them in family activities. A new person who is worth
having in your life will understand your need to ease them into
your children’s lives.
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