Deciding to live together before marriage needs a lot of
thought. This big step will change your relationship forever
for better or worse. Make sure you've weighed all your options
before making any rash decisions. Here are a few pointers to
bear in mind.
Pros
You will get to know each others routines and any habits
they have that you have yet to see.
Living together will give you the chance to find
out if you can live together. After all it is easier to walk
away from a relationship if you don't get a long then it is to
walk away from a marriage.
You will get to see him in all moods good and
bad. At the moment he puts on a show for you and can put of
seeing you if he is having a bad day. Where as living together
you will see all sides of him.
You'll get to see him for what he really is.
Farting, smelly socks and all. You will also get a feel for how
he lives whether he is hygienic or if he only cleans up when
you're coming to visit.
You get to have more sex and set a pattern ready
for married life.
If either of you have any doubt about marriage,
living together will confirm whether you are right for each
other or not.
Cons
One of you may get to comfortable and put of the marriage which
could cause a problem if the other wants to get married as soon
as possible. You should put a time limit on how long you are
going to live together before marrying.
It takes away the excitement after getting
married.
It can cause problems if you are from a strict
religious back ground and are not planning on having sex before
you are married. The temptation is just to high and may lead to
arguments.
There is always the matter about money. This can
cause great problems if one puts in more then the other etc..
You should set rules about finances before you even decide to
live together.
Statistics show that the longer a couple live
together the less likely they are to get married and also that
the divorce rate of people who lived together before marriage is
much higher then that of people who waited until they were
married before living together.
