I’ve always wanted to be a stripper … but how do I tell my husband?

Problem: When I was in high school and college I had a couple of friends who were strippers; I loved they way they moved and danced. Ever since then I have really wanted to be a stripper. I didn’t have the body for it then, but now after four kids, a tummy tuck, and a boob job, I am ready to hit the poll twirling. How do I tell my husband about my desire?

If you are serious about this, there are a couple of things you need to decide before bringing it up with your husband. Firstly, decide if following your dream is worth a divorce and a battle for the children. Would you also want to tell your kids? If they are at an age were they would notice a change, what exactly are you going to tell them? Are you going to tell your friends and/or your husband’s friends? This could be a deciding factor for your husband if he doesn’t want anyone to know.

If your husband is genuinely against you stripping then you need to come up with a serious and legitimate reason to justify you pursuing this; it cannot just be because “you want to” - there needs to be a reason for him to benefit. An example would be promising to put your ‘stripping money’ into a 529 college savings plan for your children, which gives your career change a much needed credibility boost.

My last bit of advice would be to set the rules before you start stripping - can he watch you strip or not? If he is very possessive then I would advise you from allowing him to watch you strip.

Francis Deacon.
Relationship expert for the International dating site www.cupidbay.com