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Blind Date Basics
Your friend has just set you up with a guy you have never met
and know nothing about, except what she has told you. You have
those fears. What if I don't like him or what if I like him but
he doesn't like me. Well don't worry, we are here to help.
Keep an open mind
Remember this is a blind date. You have never seen this guy
before. Don't form a mental image of him or have high
expectations. You will only be disappointed if he is not how
you imagined. You will know within the first few minutes
whether you are attracted to him or not.
Keep it short but sweet
Don't arrange to meet at the cinema, for dinner or any where
else hat could keep you together for more than an hour.
Arrange to meet up for a coffee or during your lunch break.
If you are not interested in the guy then you can make a
quick exit if you have only agreed to meet for half an hour
or an hour and if you do like him then you can stay where
you are or arrange to meet up again.
Way out
It is crucial when on a blind date that you have an escape
route. You could get a friend to call you 30 minutes into
the date and if you don't like him you can make an excuse
and leave and if you do like him then you can tell your
friend to call you back later. (Remember to always let
someone know where you are.) Or you could tell him that you
promised your friend you’d go shopping an hour after you and
he planned to meet. If the date is going well, pretend to go
call her to let her know that "you’re not up to going
shopping." Go shopping if you aren't interested. You could
get some friends to turn up at the meeting point and if
things aren't going well you can leave with them and if
things are going well tell them you will meet up with them
later.
Meet ‘n’ greet
One of the biggest mistakes people make when going on a
blind date is trying to be someone they aren’t.
When meeting someone for the first time, be
yourself. Whether that means going all out or remaining
casual, your personality will shine through only if you’re
not trying to be something you aren’t. While first
impressions are important, do not feel the need to wear
heels on a Sunday if you’d normally wear flip-flop sandals.
He wants to know who you are; not who you think he wants you
to be.
Better safe than sorry
While going on a blind date can be exciting and fun,
remember that you have no firsthand knowledge about the
person you are meeting. If you have been set up through
mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough idea of
your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows
exactly where and when you’re meeting.
If the person you are meeting is a complete
stranger, however, you need to take even more precautions.
Make sure someone knows your whereabouts, knows the name of
the person you will be meeting, and how long the date is
scheduled for. You may want to have a friend join you, or
"run into you" about 15 minutes into the date to check up on
you.
Who's paying
Make it clear from the start if you intend to pay for half of
everything. You may not want to feel like you owe the guy
anything.
Goodbye
Parting after a blind date has the potential to be very awkward,
but it doesn’t have to be! Should you kiss him, if you like him?
Should you tell him you aren’t interested? It’s always best to do
whatever you think feels right. If you are interested in going out
with him again, make sure he knows it and tell him that you will
call. If you aren’t interested in seeing him again, make sure that
you let him know. It’s better to be honest then stringing him
along to false hopes.
Getting to know him
Pay close attention to the things he says, which can reveal
a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food, and art can be a
great way to find out if you two have common interests—or nothing
in common at all!
You should also look for common "warning signs"
when on a blind date. If the guy does any of the following, watch
out!
- Talks about his ex-girlfriend throughout the date
- Doesn’t offer to pay for the first date (or the second, or
third…)
- Speaks badly about his mother or ex-girlfriends
- Treats the waiters, staff rudely or doesn’t tip
Remember not everyone's tastes are the same and
there will be things about a guy that you do not like, such as
baldness, lack of hygiene etc.. Theses are your own warning signs
so don't ignore them.
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