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How to get over being dumped
Virtually everyone has been dumped at some time in their life. I
know I have and I know how much it hurts. Rejection is like a
severe pain something twisting your insides. You may even feel
nausea, headaches and even sickness. You may even find that for
some reason you are subject to every cold and bug within a mile
of you. Picking up the pieces is very tough. You will wish that
your life could go back to the way it was before he left and you
will live in hope that he will return. You may even feel that no
body will ever want you and that you will never find love again.
This is of course nonsense but you will not realize it until the
day you are finally over him.
So, how can you get over the pain? How can you
learn to live again? How can you stop feeling that you are
unlovable and unwantable and that fate has marked you out for a
lifetime of solitude, misery and bad luck? How can you start to
enjoy your new single life and start to have some fun?
The first step
You have to realize that he is not coming back to you. This is a
painful process and it doesn't matter whether you are young and
have lost the boy of your dreams or you are a 40 year old who has
been left by her philandering husband of 20 years. The healing
process is still the same.
Remember that you will get over him. It might not
seem like that right now but believe me in time you will.
Cry
Let it all out. You may cry for a day, a week even a month or two
and when the crying stops you will know you are half way there.
Talk
Talk to your friends and family. Talk about your ex until you have
no words left to say. You will know you are getting better when
you are bored with the subject yourself.
Get angry
Shout, yell, scream even punch a pillow (don't punch anyone though
as you can end up in serious trouble.) Let all your anger out.
Then take 5 minutes to calm yourself down by taking some deep
breathes and not moving. You will feel much better at letting all
your anger out and feel even better once you are calm.
Look after yourself
You may be off your food, not sleeping properly, over drinking,
smoking generally not looking after yourself. With all the added
stress this will begin to show. Take long, hot scented baths, play
music that helps you to let your feelings out and allow other
people to get close to you and to care for you.
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