A Divorce is always painful. Sometimes you simply can not come to terms with our ex, but that inevitably leaves you injured and depressed because everything aside, this is the person you cared for. But don’t give up yet! Believe it or not – according to experts, most relationships can be saved.
Here are 4 tips that provide clear and precise advice to discover the root of your problems and to help you understand how to save your marriage:
1. Determine What Your Problems Are
Before trying and asking people advice on how to save your marriage, take time to identify the real problem. Take stock of your situation, what you expect from life and whether your desires are reasonable or not. What exactly are you blaming your partner for? His lack of attention, unpleasant behavior, his continuous absence? And when that is done, try to understand as impartially as possible – what does he blame you for? Maybe this alone can help you tackle the problem and understand what options are available to you.
2. Let your Common Past Help You
There was a time not so long ago when you were the perfect couple, were you not? You were eager to see each other and could not spend a second without one another. Of course you had conflicts. But you were able to resolve them without screaming at each other for hours. Then something went wrong. But what? To find out, take stock of your relationship and try to determine what could be the cause of your problems – and do it together. Take time to discuss and share your thoughts. You will have a clearer idea of how to proceed.
3. Accept Compromise
If you ask any happily married couple advice on how to save your marriage, they will tell you that you need to find a common ground. How exactly are you supposed to do that? Well, if you are tired of arguing with your partner (always for the same reasons), that is something that needs to change.
To successfully save your marriage, take time to discuss both aspects, put your finger on at least one of your problems each week and try to find a solution in the form of compromise. Things might not go to being what they used to, but they can be better than separation. This is exactly what a ‘compromise’ is and this is what you need to deal with.
Try this ‘one problem a week’ approach for a few weeks and see the results. While you are at it, ignore the other problems that you haven’t arrived at a compromise for, and only concentrate on the chosen problem.
4. Spend Time Together
Many a relationships experience a sad end just because both partners are too busy elsewhere to grant each other as much attention as is needed. Sadly, this little problem creates a huge gap which looks like it cannot be filled up ever again and leads to a divorce or separation. Maybe you cannot spare three whole days to go on a weekend, but you can still find the time to organize a small intimate evening at least once a week – preferably minus the kids and any other family.
You need to do this to recover and to resume all the attention that you gave each other at the beginning of your relationship, which got lost somehow. Make your time together count by avoiding conversations about job, money and responsibilities. Rather, take advantage of this time to share your plans, your dreams and keep the discussion pleasant.
These four ‘tips’ are actually the “must-knows” of how to save you marriage and should form the basics of your efforts to save your relationship from falling apart. Now it’s up to you to take things in hand, let bygones be bygones, salvage what you have and then work upon it to make a fresh, new relationship blossom.