1.Don't drag it out - When it is
over, it's over. You're not doing your partner or yourself any
favors by delaying the inevitable. Rather sooner than later.
2.
Be honest - The oldest line is "it's me not you" Although
this might be easier the only way you can truly help this guy is
by being completely honest with him and it will help him
understand why you are breaking up.
3. Don't overlap - The worst
thing you can do is be seeing someone before you tell your guy
that it is over. Plus your future partner will always have that
doubt in his head. Will you do the same to him?
4. Can we be friends? - Don't
expect to be friends after a break up. Even if you were
friends before you became intimate your friendship can never
be the same again.
5. Let him have his say -
Don't expect to end it and him leave it at that, especially if
it has come out the blue. He will want to ask questions, try
to talk you round. Let him have his say this will give you the
chance to explain in full why you want to end the
relationship. Think about how you would feel if you where the
one being dumped you would want to ask questions.
6. Don't do it in a public place
- Even if you don't like this guy the worse thing you can do is
dump him in a public place. It is the ultimate humiliation.
7. Write down how you feel -
Ending it face to face can be very difficult. Write a letter
explaining why you want to break up. But deliver it in person,
and be there to talk with him afterwards.
8. Don't feel guilty - More
often than not when we try to end a relationship we are made to
feel guilty by the other which makes us stay and hate the person
more. If you want out then no matter how much he begs, how much
he says he'll change, how much he has done for you, stick to
your decision before things get worse.
9. Don't pick a fight - The only
way we pick a fight is to ease the guilt which makes the other
feel guilty when the relationship ends thinking that it is his
fault. Again get straight to the point and don't make him suffer
more than he has to.
10. Leave as you would like to be
left - Being dumped is a horrible business so try to think
about if you got dumped how you would like it to be done. Do to
others as you would have done to yourself. (great saying).
